Relationship check-in questions

A relationship runs smoother with regular check-ins. These are gentle, no-pressure questions about how you're each doing and what would help — a calm way to stay close before the little things pile up.

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36 questions

  1. 1What resets a bad mood for you?
  2. 2Your comfort re-watch?
  3. 3When stressed, you'd rather...?
  4. 4Your cozy essential?
  5. 5Your ideal self-care?
  6. 6Your ideal way to be woken up?
  7. 7When you're under the weather, you want...?
  8. 8Your ideal way to truly unplug?
  9. 9Best comfort sound?
  10. 10A perfect lazy Sunday is...?
  11. 11How do you celebrate a win?
  12. 12What do we do best as a team?
  13. 13Our love-story energy?
  14. 14A tradition we should start?
  15. 15When we disagree, what helps most?
  16. 16A surprise free evening — we...?
  17. 17What makes a house feel like home?
  18. 18Our ideal double-date?
  19. 19In five years, I hope we're...?
  20. 20Best way we spend a long car ride?
  21. 21The nicest thing we do for each other?
  22. 22Biggest green flag in a person?
  23. 23What tiny thing makes you weirdly happy?
  24. 24Your strongest love language?
  25. 25How do you say 'I love you' without words?
  26. 26Best kind of hug?
  27. 27What makes you feel most cared for?
  28. 28What's your flirting style?
  29. 29Ideal amount of PDA?
  30. 30Ideal way to end the day together?
  31. 31Pick a small romantic gesture:
  32. 32After a hard day, you want...?
  33. 33Your idea of a perfect date?
  34. 34Our song should be a...?
  35. 35Your favorite thing about being a pair?
  36. 36The truest thing about how you feel about us?

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